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So . . .

My previously mentioned friend and I had it out today and narrowly avoided a public screaming match. (I dislike being told patronisingly to 'calm down' and tend to get louder instead.) We are now ex-friends. She claims it is my fault for not even letting her apologise, but since her attempt at apology contained self-justifying silencing and derailing tactics and did not contain the words "I'm sorry" I'm pretty sure I did the right thing.

I won't let her make me feel guilty for getting angry. I had every right to be angry. This time I'm not going crawling back. I've just gone back to full-time education and I don't the sheer amount of stress that would go into keeping her sweet (and would also include lying and pretending to admit that she hadn't done anything wrong and my behaviour was totally unjustified.)

F**k that.



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Sep. 25th, 2012 07:39 pm (UTC)
This person sounds passive-aggressive and that's never a healthy thing to have to put up with. And being angry is completely understandable; it seems like they did everything they could to invalidate you and what you are going through.
Kudos to you for getting out of a relationship that sounds pretty toxic, but I am sorry you had to lose a friend. Hopefully you'll find a new friend who actually understands the meaning of the word.
Sep. 25th, 2012 08:34 pm (UTC)
Passive-aggressive is exactly what she is. I'm only sorry that it took me so long to tell her where to shove it.
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