You are viewing randomcheeses

Previous Entry | Next Entry

Aaaaaaaaaaaaagh

lanfan
So, I finally told my supposed best friend about my major depression issues I've been having the last 4-6 years.

She told me not to be so dramatic, I wasn't really 'depressed' (apparently it is not officially depression until you're engaging in self-harm), that it was all my own fault for cutting myself off from people and not socialising enough, and that if it was really a problem I would've obviously gone and got counselling straight away.

Shit, I hate her sometimes.

Comments

( 14 comments — Leave a comment )
riah_chan
Sep. 24th, 2012 11:54 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry your friend sucks in this way. Hang in there.
randomcheeses
Sep. 25th, 2012 04:30 pm (UTC)
Thank you. I will.
amethyst_koneko
Sep. 25th, 2012 12:27 am (UTC)
O_o? That's a terrible thing to say to someone! Me thinks perhaps you need a new best friend. :/
randomcheeses
Sep. 25th, 2012 04:30 pm (UTC)
Thank you. I think so too.
lonegamer78
Sep. 25th, 2012 04:19 am (UTC)
Really? Really? *hugs*

Seriously, that's just... fail on her part.
randomcheeses
Sep. 25th, 2012 04:30 pm (UTC)
*hugs back gratefully*
dormantdrake
Sep. 25th, 2012 04:39 am (UTC)
o.O
randomcheeses
Sep. 25th, 2012 04:34 pm (UTC)
Yeah . . .
evilchuckles
Sep. 25th, 2012 11:44 am (UTC)
Is your friend my sister? Because seriously they sound like the same person. She once told me to pull myself together because 'every time you call home you're crying and it's stressing everyone out.'
randomcheeses
Sep. 25th, 2012 04:31 pm (UTC)
Unfortunately, because of the stigma surrounding depression, I think that's an attitude a lot of people have.
evilchuckles
Sep. 25th, 2012 04:36 pm (UTC)
Another reason for comments like that is the number of people with all the empathy of a packet of tea.
randomcheeses
Sep. 25th, 2012 04:37 pm (UTC)
Yeah. That too.
akainagi
Sep. 25th, 2012 01:27 pm (UTC)
So many people think they understand depression, but they really have no idea. And because they think they know, they feel free to shoot their mouth off. Your "friend" clearly doesn't understand that depression and related disorders are often the reason that a person begins to self-isolate. It doesn't help that there is a distinct lack of support for the depressed person in the real world, as this person has demonstrated rather spectacularly.
I have had similar things happen, so I know how lousy it feels to get that kind of reaction. I hope you find some friends who are more understanding and less full of their own self-importance.
randomcheeses
Sep. 25th, 2012 04:29 pm (UTC)
Thank you. You really hit the nail on the head on exactly why it was so hurtful to hear her talk that way.
( 14 comments — Leave a comment )